Being Sent to a New Church pt. 2

Introduction

Last week we talked about what the church is, now we’re moving toward how you can evaluate what a church is like by looking at a few practical and wise approaches.

Going on Sunday

It’s important to see what happens on Sundays. It’s an important rhythm and does reveal a lot about a church and its culture. It’s similar to going on a first date: you get a sense of their personality, and their tastes. You’ll obviously think about practical things like your personal experience of worship, the preaching to your heart and mind, and how the people of the church treat you as you visit. However, there are some more intentional things to observe as you think about the essentials of all churches (gospel, mission, community, leadership).

  • How is the Scripture read? How do they talk about Jesus? Sing about Jesus? Pray to Jesus? (gospel)

  • Look for grace and generosity in how people use their time and relational space (community)

  • Think about your neighbor or friend visiting the church (mission), do you think they’re considered in how the church is gathering? Or is the church expecting only people in it to be there?

Talk to Leaders

Sundays can only show you so much. You also want to get to know the leaders, hear their vision for the church, and get a sense of their heart for the church they serve. I want to encourage you to reach out to the leaders (an elder, deacon, or staff member) and see if you can take them to coffee to get to know them. Even better is to notice if they pursue meeting with you. When you meet ask them questions about the church but also share parts of your story and what you’re passionate about. As you do, try to notice these things:

  • Do they have joy in the church and in the people?

  • Do they listen to you well?

  • Do they pursue healthy rhythms? Are they cared for within the church?

  • A Church will not have everything…beware of the church/leader who says they do. Every church has weaknesses, limitations, etc. How will you accept and submit to it them with their weaknesses and limitations?

Talk to “Ordinary People”

Talking with non-leaders reveals the real ethic/values of a church. It also shows the fruit and work of God through the church. Are they growing? Are they being fed and challenged? Listen for how they talk about Jesus, is he the hero of the body? Listen to how they talk about the church, is it people? Lastly, listen to how they talk about those they don’t believe and aren’t in the church, what is their posture?

Join in

Ernest Hemingway wrote, “How do you know if you can trust a man? You trust them.” In the same way, you won’t really know what a church is like until you join in and that requires courage. After visiting churches and praying about the options you’ve attended, listen for which one God is calling you to step into and serve. Use your desires and dreams list from the previous post to help inform you. And then, take the leap.

Where to Get Started

These aren’t in any particular order, and it’s also important to remember you wont find a church like Soma, but you will see unity with Jesus’ church across the city. If you have specific questions about any of these, please ask.

Westside

Cornerstone West LA - A historic church that has planted churches in the city for decades. They are solid on the gospel and mission. Their pastor lives in Culver City and they have used Brad’s books on missional communities in the past.

Vintage - A Charismatic Anglican Church that is very good at reaching people and sharing the gospel with them, especially young professionals on the westside. They’re currently in a season of pressing into spiritual formation and revamping their community groups with the influence of John Mark Comer.

The Commons -  A small A29 church near UCLA. Similar size and culture of our church that focuses on personal formation and social justice. Pastor leads “The & Campaign” in LA)

Bel Air Church - Historic Presbyterian church with a legacy of diversity and evangelism. Also, many people in Culver City go there.

First Lutheran Venice - Leaders went to Soma School in Phoenix in 2019, they hosted Soma Venice for a few weeks, and their leaders are former missionaries in Africa with a great heart for reaching the west side. Congregation is older and smaller but they are trying to do missional communities.

First Southern Baptist Church - Pastor is a business professor at Pepperdine and has lived in Culver City for over 30 years. Small and older congregation but have a patience and presence in the city for a long time. *Note: they do not do children’s ministry programs during Sundays.

Collective Church - Originally a church plant out of Reality LA, Collective is earnest about the gospel, discipleship, and the church living out the gospel in life.

South Bay

Oceanside Fellowship Church - Acts 29 church with strong shared leadership and focus on the gospel and using its recourses to bless others across the city. Very solid church.

Saddleback South Bay - An extension/campus of the Saddleback in Orange County. This is much smaller but made of same values for sharing the gospel and discipling people into maturity.

Lighthouse Torrance - Great children’s and youth ministry. They also have a robust gospel-centered counseling approach. Just a solid church.

Discernment Resources

A lot of change is challenging. We’re often tempted to take our stresses, anxieties, fears, and sense of chaos and avoid them. We burry them. We ignore them. We put lots of anger and resentment towards others around us. You’re invited, by the Spirit of God to bring these emotions to God and to one another. Below you’re going to find a guide to personal reflection and a guide for processing in your DNA group.

In the coming week more resources will be given to continue discernment in MCs, especially with the MC retreats coming up the weekend of February 16-19.

Personal Reflection

Create space to be quiet before the Lord. To be still and to bring these feelings to God.

PAUSE: Be silent in God’s presence for a few minutes then use these question to pray.

REFLECT: Where have I seen Christ’s love this week, since I heard the news? Praise God.

ASK: What are you anxious about…speak those thoughts before God in prayer? Ask God to bring those things to mind.

What are you afraid of? What desires are swelling up within you? What griefs are you noticing? 

YIELD: What is God saying to you in this moment? What are you called to do? How are you called to display God’s love to others?

DNA Week

Discover

Read: Psalm 37:1-7


Q: What does trust look like? How does God guide us?


Nurture:

Q: How are you doing with the announcement this past week that Brad will be stepping down as the pastor this summer? (try to use feeling words)


Q: Have you ever experienced a leader or significant person in your life leave that before? Or a time of uncertainty? 


Q: How has God met you in those past seasons? How do you expect him to meet you in the upcoming season? 

Act

We’re in a season of asking for the Spirit to lead us into what is next. The elders and leadership team are fasting and praying. We know the future will look very different. We also know the Lord has good things for his people and each one of you. 

We are discerning next steps for the future of this specific church. Please spend 10-15 minutes praying together for guidance and direction. 

 

Extra Resources of Suffering and Evil

In the passage we read on Sunday, John 11:1-44, we came across a common question from someone in the crowd: “If Jesus can heal the blind man, why can’t he heal his sick friend?” In other words, if Jesus is good and loving and, God alrighty, why do people suffering?

I promised to share additional resources on the “problem of evil and suffer”. Here’s my list:


Retreat Guide 2024

Sometimes transitions are so hard we fixate on all the changes that could happen or strategize all the ways we can mitigate change. In this MC discussion for retreats we want to do two things…zoom out on the hope we have in Christ and live in this moment of discernment.

Hope

Read: Romans 5:1-8

Q: What is the hope Paul is referring to?

Q: What is resonating with you on your entire life?

Q: How does the gospel meet you in your emotions, worries, grief, and excitement?

Witness

READ: Romans 5:1-8 again

In this passage, Paul says that we boast in the hope of the glory of God because of the grace and salvation of God.

The ancient Greek word for witness is martyr. That’s what Jesus said when he announced his disciples would receive the Holy Spirit and become witnesses to his power. They would see and experience the power of the Spirit of God.

Q: How can your group boast in the hope of the glory of God?

Q: What has God been doing in your life?

Q: What grace do you long to see in your life in the coming month?

Discerning

The Gospel is our foundation for discernment. There’s so much grace and freedom. Spend time discussing ideas, thoughts, or concerns you have about what’s next for Soma. There’s no bad idea or thought and it’s okay to feel and think things that are different from the group.